It goes without saying we desire good experiences, so let’s move on to the other two major categories of bad and neutral. Bad experiences, with the remove of time and healing, switch categories and become good: A failed marriage becomes an invaluable life lesson. A horrible road trip with people you didn’t know well becomes a hilarious dinner party story. But neutral, the way we spend most hours of most days and years, becomes an enormous pool of nothing, and that’s bad. No memories. No experiences. Time lost.
It’s counterintuitive but valuable to argue against the little voice which cautions an opportunity might be bad; it may in fact turn out to be bad, but reminding oneself this is a short term designation can encourage action. Harder still is to notice neutral and see that as a serious issue to be addressed.